Many of us have a person in our life who makes us feel badly. Try as we may to be helpful or kind even attentive, this person makes us feel as though we are failing and can’t get it right. We feel an even stronger need to please them, to try and get it right for them. The person who makes you feel this way Id like to call a tar baby. I borrow this term from Eve Babitz, (« Slow Days, Fast Company » 1977).

We hear a lot these days about executive functioning. How to manage your time. How to stay organized. How to prioritize. We also hear so much about self care. Its no wonder that many come to my practice at a loss as to how to do it all. Even if you are clear about what needs looking after every day it may be reasonable to assume your to do list is longer than the hours you are awake!